Archive for June 2017

The Overly-Critical Voice in Your Head

Have you ever noticed that — of all the people in your life — the one putting the most pressure on you is you?? This can be frustrating, but it happens to a lot of people. My guess is that over time you’ve developed really high standards for yourself, and you hold yourself to these…

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When Being “Fine with Whatever” Goes Too Far

“When my kids are happy, I’m happy.” “I don’t care, I’m fine with whatever.” “I usually just go with the flow.” Some of us really struggle to figure out what we want in any given moment. There can be a lot of reasons for this, but the tendency to put others’ needs above our own…

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Upgrade your morning

Alarm goes off and you greet the morning by hitting snooze (twice). Your kid wakes you up by sneezing in your face, and you realize that in addition to having just probably contracted a cold, you are LATE. You scramble around, stubbing your toe, jumping in and out of the shower in 5 minutes, throwing…

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5 reasons why you haven’t joined a therapy group (yet!)

Let me start out by saying that I am a Group Therapy Nerd. (Yes, I actually refer to myself that way in real life.) I’ve been changed forever — I’m talking profound mindset shifts, people! — by my participation in groups, both as a member and a facilitator. I see it as one of my…

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Seeking comfort vs. seeking care

I got to go to this amazing training yesterday in Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR), an approach first developed by Jon Kabat-Zinn in 1979. When Kabat-Zinn created MBSR, mindfulness was viewed as fringey, new-agey, and “weird” (at least in the United States). Now it’s everywhere! Mindfulness-based strategies are super effective, and the science really does back…

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